RESOLVE FEELINGS OF GUILT
I will Work with you and assist you to be orientated towards your Goal – rather than towards your problem. I will assist you to state your Goal – that is – What YOU want to achieve from your Work with me – as a problem free state. For example – instead of you stating that you wish to be free from Guilt – I will encourage you, in your own words to state your Goal as something like: “I want to be peaceful…” – “I want to be calm….” – “I want to be free…” |
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These are my words and ideas – I will be asking you to find your own words for what you want to achieve.
This will mean that as we focus on your Goal – your problem free state – we will be discovering resources – different ways of thinking – different patterns of beliefs – for you to have and use – and move you towards a state which will be free of this problem.
Focusing our attention on the problem – of Guilt – will mean evaluating and exploring What is wrong with you? – Whose fault is it? This kind of evaluation and exploration is not going to lead anywhere useful. This kind of evaluation can often leave you feeling worse and does not solve the problem.
OK - My Work with you is to assist you to move on to a problem free state. I guess that the purpose you have in reading this page is because you do want to change? – Right? Your purpose is to achieve a problem free state? You may ask: “Is this possible?” You may exclaim: – “You don’t know what I did – felt – thought – believed – I am feeling so guilty – I am feeling so responsible…..”
OK – you know what this tells me – it tells me something great about you – it tells you have a conscience. How wonderful is that! Believe it or not a conscience is rare in these days of our changing society’s values and beliefs. You are rare. I admire and respect you – for your conscience.
At Excellent Rapport we believe that anyone who visits us – contacts us – Works with us – will most definitely have done their best – at anytime in any situation or experience in their life. They – and you will have done your best – in that or those ‘difficult’ experiences with the inner and or outer resources that you could access – at the time. Do we make sense? We do so hope so – because although we like and respect anyone at all who visits us – contacts us – or Works with us – because we personally know from when we first took steps to Work with a Therapist – that it takes real courage to make those first, often tentative, steps. But you – we especially do like and respect you – because you are visiting us to discover what we have to say about resolving Guilt – as we said – this tells us you are a rare person – a person of conscience.
Talk to me if what I have said to you so far does not make sense – I will be thoroughly delighted to hear from you. If I am not in the office I will make sure I get back to you as soon as is possible
So, what do I actually do to assist to Achieve a Problem free State? Well, the details of a Therapeutic plan of Work for you will be unique to your life’s experiences, thoughts and beliefs and values. What I will do and how I will do the Work with you and for you – I will be able to tell you with greater clarity after our Free Consultation.
One Therapeutic piece of Work we will definitely do is stop all those terrible thoughts, images and beliefs which daily beset you – which continuously ‘play’ on and on and on – in your unconscious mind. That means that those horrendous debilitating guilt thoughts, beliefs and images – just keep on – ‘playing’ in the unconscious – even during those few hours or days when you are occupied and distracted with other things in daily life. Those horrendous guilt thoughts, beliefs and images are still there – like the heating programme in a building keeps on maintaining the ‘temperature’ and you no longer even notice it – you’ve got used to feeling pretty much debilitated most of the time. Right? – To stop or change those guilt thoughts, beliefs and images I need to first find out from you – what they are – and which of those thoughts, beliefs or images you are willing to chose to give up!
Back in 1969 W. Clement Stone a self made multimillionaire – worth at the time $600 million said: “If you want to be successful (achieve your problem free state) – you will have to stop blaming (yourself) and take total responsibility for your life. That means all your results, both your successes and your failures. This is the prerequisite for creating a life of success. It is only by acknowledging that you have created everything up until now that you can take charge of creating the future you want.
If you realise that you have created your current conditions, then you can un-create them and re-create them at will….”
(Parenthesis added by Sally Stubbs)
I like what W. Clement Stone has to say.
However!
How – do we un-create the state we are creating? – The how – is firstly in discovering our unconscious thoughts, beliefs and images – which are primarily driving our state and therefore our daily life experiences. Once we know how you are creating those guilt thoughts, beliefs and images we can begin making the necessary changes in those thought processes. The how of discovering these unconscious thoughts, beliefs and images, and the how to change those thought processes is what I do, That’s my job!
FREE ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION
Your first session will be an ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION. This session is FREE of charge. You will be able to ask me all the questions you need and also inform me of anything that you think and feel is important and relevant. I will establish with you what you need and want to achieve from your Therapy and structure for you a treatment plan.
However if I think that working with me does not seem to be the most effective method of resolving your difficulties, symptoms or problem I will be able to talk to you about other ways you can receive help that could be more beneficial.
If you have an idea of what you would like to achieve from working with me please go to appointments to book your ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION
If you need further advice or information about resolving feelings of Guilt or Shame we will be delighted to hear from you. You will find us friendly, professional and we will treat anything you may say or ask us in the strictest confidence.
Email: sandie@excellentrapport.com
OR please telephone: Sandie – 0191 5110368
For calls from outside the UK
please telephone Sandie - +44 (0)191 5110368
Postal enquiries – Office address:
Excellent Rapport Ltd
Bridge house
30 Melsonby Close
Sunderland
SR3 2QL
UK
Your ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION will be booked for you at a time and date that is convenient for you and will last for approximately one hour. This session is Free – and can be done by phone, SKYPE, or face to face at my consulting rooms in Keswick, Cumbria, in the English Lake District. If travelling to Keswick for a weekly session is unwieldy for you I can often conduct Therapy Sessions by phone. However face to face Work, though not always essential, can often be much better, in that for example, by phone you may tell me that you are comfortable and relaxed, and face to face I can observe from you breathing, heart rate and so on that in fact you are uncomfortable.
Also go to Therapeutic Breaks in The Heart of the English Lake district for information on our accommodation – which is a sweet cosy cottage, which sleep four people right on the banks of the beautiful River Greta.
Many clients who have worked with me have often said: “I have several of the symptoms on your list – where do I begin?” during your ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION I will help you to discover where you need to begin, and often several symptoms or problems will be resolved and healed during the course of therapy.
Whatever your problem I can help!
