RESOLVE YOUR EMOTIONAL PAIN
You are probably experiencing what you know as emotional pain as a felt sense in your body? Could it be for you that you feel it in your head, your eyes or face? |
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Traditionally, and understandably you will most likely have tried everything to RID yourself of the emotional pain which you experience as a felt sense in your body.
You may, for example, have tried relaxation techniques, deep breathing exercises, Yoga, physical exercise, even some form of tranquiliser. It may seem strange to you that I as your Therapist will, instead of immediately trying to get rid of the ‘pain’ – will instead get to know it by asking very careful, very gentle, what we call very ‘clean’ – and well formulated questions of It – the ‘pain’.
Strange as this approach may seem to you, please bear with us and read on, please give us just a few moments of your time to explain. Emotional pain is usually one of two things: 1) It never belonged to you in the first place – it belonged to someone else and entered your psyche, your personal psychology, probably at a time when you were vulnerable. And 2) It does belong to you. What I mean by that is, it was ‘born’ in your psyche, your personal psychology, probably during a difficult and conflicting time in your life.
An example of 1) One of my clients, now in her mid twenties – sat by her beloved dying grandmother – her psyche ‘took in’ her beloved grandmother’s pain in an unsuccessful attempt to relieve her grandmother’s suffering. My client had no conscious memory, before Working with me of having ‘taken in’ her grandmother’s pain. I need to ask questions of the emotional pain – in order to avail ourselves of ITS unique properties. Once we know ITS properties – (all emotional pain has it’s own unique properties) – then and only then will we successfully enable the pain to what we call exit the body.
2) However, if the emotional pain – belongs to you –(and I establish this by use of careful, comfortable, clean very well formulated and gentle questions) – IT – the pain will nearly always have had some original qualities which were attempting to protect you. (I appreciate this may seem ludicrous to you, please, just bear with me a few more minutes) In this case we need to carefully discover just exactly what these protective resources are and how they are relevant and valuable to you as a unique individual. We need to enable the emotional pain to transform into a resource and inner strength for you – rather than attempting to get rid of it.
An example of 2) One of my clients, in his mid thirties Worked with me. His ‘pain’ he experienced as a rope twisted into knots in his stomach. He had experiences in his younger life of being ‘tied down’ – of ‘being held back’ – by well meaning, but overly authoritarian adults – who were influential in his upbringing. His life’s behaviour had developed into never being able to ‘move’ ahead, of never feeling able to ‘put himself forward’, of being continuously ‘overpowered’ by others both professionally and personally. It took us three hours of Work to discover what that knotted rope wanted to do, and then transform my clients past behaviour. The knotted rope wanted to untwist and hold off and hold back those who overpowered our client. Our client learnt the skills in the three hours of Work – to behave and communicate differently, comfortably and confidently – to hold off and hold back others – so that he could have his own space in which he could fully and truly express himself. Once my client achieved this new behaviour and new way of being –only then could ‘the rope’ exit his body.
FREE ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION
Your first session will be an ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION. This session is FREE of charge. You will be able to ask me all the questions you need and also inform me of anything that you think and feel is important and relevant. I will establish with you what you need and want to achieve from your Therapy and structure for you a treatment plan.
However if I think that working with me does not seem to be the most effective method of resolving your difficulties, symptoms or problem I will be able to talk to you about other ways you can receive help that could be more beneficial.
If you have an idea of what you would like to achieve from working with me please go to appointments to book your ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION
If you need further advice or information about emotional pain we will be delighted to hear from you. You will find us friendly, professional and we will treat anything you may say or ask us in the strictest confidence.
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Excellent Rapport Ltd
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Your ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION will be booked for you at a time and date that is convenient for you and will last for approximately one hour. This session is Free – and can be done by phone, SKYPE, or face to face at my consulting rooms in Keswick, Cumbria, in the English Lake District. If travelling to Keswick for a weekly session is unwieldy for you I can often conduct Therapy Sessions by phone. However face to face Work, though not always essential, can often be much better, in that for example, by phone you may tell me that you are comfortable and relaxed, and face to face I can observe from you breathing, heart rate and so on that in fact you are uncomfortable.
Also go to Therapeutic Breaks in The Heart of the English Lake district for information on our accommodation – which is a sweet cosy cottage, which sleep four people right on the banks of the beautiful River Greta.
Many clients who have worked with me have often said: “I have several of the symptoms on your list – where do I begin?” during your ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION I will help you to discover where you need to begin, and often several symptoms or problems will be resolved and healed during the course of therapy.
Whatever your problem I can help!
