RESOLVE FEELINGS OF GUILT
I will Work with you and assist you to be orientated towards your
Goal – rather than towards your problem. I will assist you to state
your Goal – that is – What
YOU
want to achieve from your Work with me – as a problem free state.
For example – instead of you stating that you wish to be free from
Guilt – I will encourage you, in your own words to state your Goal
as something like: “I want to be peaceful…” – “I want to be calm….”
– “I want to be free…”These are
my
words and ideas – I will be asking you to find your own words for
what you want to achieve.
This will mean that as we focus on your Goal – your problem free
state – we will be discovering resources – different ways of
thinking – different patterns of beliefs – for you to have and use –
and move you towards a state which will be free of this problem.
Focusing our attention on the problem – of Guilt – will mean
evaluating and exploring What is wrong with you? – Whose fault is
it? This kind of evaluation and exploration is not going to lead
anywhere useful. This kind of evaluation can often leave you feeling
worse and does not solve the problem.
OK - My Work with you is to assist you to move on to a problem free
state. I guess that the purpose you have in reading this page is
because you do want to change? – Right? Your purpose is to achieve a
problem free state? You may ask: “Is this possible?” You may
exclaim: – “You don’t know what I did – felt – thought – believed –
I am feeling
so
guilty – I am feeling
so
responsible…..”
OK – you know what this tells me – it tells me something great about
you – it tells you have a conscience. How wonderful is that! Believe
it or not a conscience is rare in these days of our changing
society’s values and beliefs. You are rare. I admire and respect you
– for your conscience.
At Excellent Rapport we believe that anyone who visits us – contacts
us – Works with us – will most definitely have done their best – at
anytime in any situation or experience in their life. They – and you
will have done your best – in that or those ‘difficult’ experiences
with the inner and or outer resources that you could access – at the
time. Do we make sense? We do so hope so – because although we like
and respect anyone at all who visits us – contacts us – or Works
with us – because we personally know from when we first took steps
to Work with a Therapist – that it takes real courage to make those
first, often tentative, steps. But you – we especially do like and
respect you – because you are visiting us to discover what we have
to say about resolving Guilt – as we said – this tells us you are a
rare person – a person of conscience.
Talk to me if what I have said to you so far does not make sense – I
will be thoroughly delighted to hear from you. If I am not in the
office I will make sure I get back to you as soon as is possible
So, what do I actually do to assist to Achieve a Problem free State?
Well, the details of a Therapeutic plan of Work for you will be
unique to your life’s experiences, thoughts and beliefs and values.
What I will do and how I will do the Work with you and for you – I
will be able to tell you with greater clarity after our Free
Consultation.
One Therapeutic piece of Work we will definitely do is stop all
those terrible thoughts, images and beliefs which daily beset you –
which continuously ‘play’ on and on and on – in your unconscious
mind. That means that those horrendous debilitating guilt thoughts,
beliefs and images – just keep on – ‘playing’ in the unconscious –
even during those few hours or days when you are occupied and
distracted with other things in daily life. Those horrendous guilt
thoughts, beliefs and images are still there – like the heating
programme in a building keeps on maintaining the ‘temperature’ and
you no longer even notice it – you’ve got used to feeling pretty
much debilitated most of the time. Right? – To stop or change those
guilt thoughts, beliefs and images I need to first find out from you
– what they are – and which of those thoughts, beliefs or images you
are willing to chose to give up!
Back in 1969 W. Clement Stone a self made multimillionaire – worth
at the time $600 million said: “If you want to be successful
(achieve your problem free state) – you will have to stop blaming
(yourself) and take total responsibility for your life. That means
all your results, both your successes and your failures. This is the
prerequisite for creating a life of success. It is only by
acknowledging that you have created everything up until now that you
can take charge of creating the future you want.
If you realise that you have created your current conditions, then
you can un-create them and re-create them at will….”
(Parenthesis added by Sally Stubbs)
I like what W. Clement Stone has to say.
However!
How
– do we un-create the state we are creating? – The
how
– is firstly in discovering our unconscious thoughts, beliefs and
images – which are primarily driving our state and therefore our
daily life experiences. Once we know how you are creating those
guilt thoughts, beliefs and images we can begin making the necessary
changes in those thought processes. The
how
of discovering these unconscious thoughts, beliefs and images, and
the how to change those thought processes is
what I do, That’s my job! |
What can you do next?
Check out my 40 DAY COURSE ON MP3 or CD or
Choose a FREE ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION
You will be able to ask me all the questions you need and also
inform me of anything that you think and feel is important and
relevant. I will establish with you what you need and want to
achieve from your Therapy and structure for you a treatment plan.
However if I think that working with me does not seem to be the most
effective method of resolving your difficulties, symptoms or problem
I will be able to talk to you about other ways you can receive help
that could be more beneficial.
If you need further advice or information about this problem we will
be delighted to hear from you. You will find us friendly,
professional and we will treat anything you may say or ask of us in
the strictest confidence.
Your FREE ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION
will last for approximately one hour and can be done by phone, SKYPE,
or face to face at our consulting rooms in Keswick, Cumbria, in the
English Lake District. If travelling to Keswick for a weekly session
is unwieldy for you I can often conduct Therapy Sessions by phone.
However face to face Work, though not always essential, can often be
much better, in that for example, by phone you may tell me that you
are comfortable and relaxed, and face to face I can observe from your
breathing, heart rate and so on that in fact you are uncomfortable.
Also see 'Therapeutic Breaks' for information on our accommodation
–a sweet cosy cottage right on the banks of the beautiful River
Greta which sleeps three people.
Email:
sandie@excellentrapport.com
Or ring Sandie on 0191 5110368
(Non-UK +44 (0)191 5110368)
Registered Office address:
Excellent Rapport Ltd
Bridge House
30 Melsonby Close
Sunderland
SR3 2QL UK
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