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RESOLVE YOUR EMOTIONAL PAIN
You are probably experiencing what you know as
emotional pain as a felt sense in your body?
Could it be for you that you feel it in your head,
your eyes or face?
Could it be in your throat, your heart, chest, stomach, or somewhere
else in your body?
Traditionally, and understandably you will most likely have tried
everything to RID yourself of the emotional pain which you
experience as a felt sense in your body.
You may, for example, have tried relaxation techniques, deep
breathing exercises, Yoga, physical exercise, even some form of
tranquiliser. It may seem strange to you that I as your Therapist
will, instead of immediately trying to get rid of the ‘pain’ – will
instead get to know it by asking very careful, very gentle, what we
call very ‘clean’ – and well formulated questions of It – the
‘pain’.
Strange as this approach may seem to you, please bear with us and
read on, please give us just a few moments of your time to explain.
Emotional pain is usually one of two things: 1) It never belonged to
you in the first place – it belonged to someone else and entered
your psyche, your personal psychology, probably at a time when you
were vulnerable. And 2) It does belong to you. What I mean by that
is, it was ‘born’ in your psyche, your personal psychology, probably
during a difficult and conflicting time in your life.
An example of One of my clients, now in her mid twenties – sat by
her beloved dying grandmother – her psyche ‘took in’ her beloved
grandmother’s pain in an unsuccessful attempt to relieve her
grandmother’s suffering. My client had no conscious memory, before
Working with me of having
‘taken in’
her grandmother’s pain. I need to ask questions of the emotional
pain – in order to avail ourselves of ITS unique properties. Once we
know ITS properties – (all emotional pain has it’s own unique
properties) – then and only then will we successfully enable the
pain to what we call exit the body.
However, if the emotional pain – belongs to you –(and I establish
this by use of careful, comfortable, clean very well formulated and
gentle questions) – IT – the pain will nearly always have had some
original qualities which were attempting to protect you. (I
appreciate this may seem ludicrous to you, please, just bear with me
a few more minutes) In this case we need to carefully discover just
exactly what these protective resources are and how they are
relevant and valuable to you as a unique individual. We need to
enable the emotional pain to transform into a resource and inner
strength for you – rather than attempting to get rid of it.
An example of another One of my clients, in his mid thirties Worked with
me. His ‘pain’ he experienced as a rope twisted into knots in his
stomach. He had experiences in his younger life of being ‘tied down’
– of ‘being held back’ – by well meaning, but overly authoritarian
adults – who were influential in his upbringing. His life’s
behaviour had developed into never being able to ‘move’ ahead, of
never feeling able to ‘put himself forward’, of being continuously
‘overpowered’ by others both professionally and personally. It took
us three hours of Work to discover what that knotted rope wanted to
do, and then transform my clients past behaviour. The knotted rope
wanted to untwist and hold off and hold back those who overpowered
our client. Our client learnt the skills in the three hours of Work
– to behave and communicate differently, comfortably and confidently
– to hold off and hold back others – so that he could have his own
space in which he could fully and truly express himself. Once my
client achieved this new behaviour and new way of being –only then
could ‘the rope’ exit his body.
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However face to face Work, though not always essential, can often be
much better, in that for example, by phone you may tell me that you
are comfortable and relaxed, and face to face I can observe from your
breathing, heart rate and so on that in fact you are uncomfortable.
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