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Resolve
Your Anger
Whether you sometimes feel your anger is justified and reasonable,
it is possible that you have come to this page because there are
times when you feel your anger is not justified or not reasonable
and is therefore causing you some difficulties, distress, concern or
even pain. One of the problems of experiencing recurring bouts of
anger can be the Physical recurrence of the “Fight or Flight”
response.
Because we cannot ‘fight’ off our aroused emotions such as anger,
nor can we ‘Fly’ or run away from own anger – the body is often
flooded with chemicals such as Cortisol, Epinephrine and
Norepinephrine – which it cannot readily ‘burn off’.
Norepinephrine has the effect of increasing heart rate and blood
pressure. Epinephrine has the effect of releasing stored sugar.
(These actions are preparing the body to aid in vigorous physical
activity – “Fight or Flight”).
Cortisol acts to aid the body to prepare us for vigorous physical
activity, unfortunately one function of Cortisol is to break down
lean tissue for conversion to sugar. Prolonged periods of elevated
levels of Cortisol in the blood causes ulceration in the lining of
the stomach.
Another problem of experiencing recurring bouts of anger can be
Psychological and Emotional distress which can interfere with, for
example, learning and concentration, productivity, enjoyment of
life, relationships, and healthy periods of resting.
All of which can lead to further emotional difficulties such as self
doubt, shame or guilt, self blame or inappropriate blame of others.
Anger can lead to aggressive behaviour – which is either
externalised and projected outward onto a handy human or humans,
handy objects, or the aggression is internalised – and projected
inwards into yourself. Whether you project your aggression outward –
or inwards towards your self – the consequent internal experiences
can be Physically, Psychologically and Emotionally damaging to you.
A common definition of aggression is: “move against” – or to “move
with the intent to hurt”.
In therapeutic terms – I am most
interested in this definition: “Move against” or “Move with the
intent to hurt”. Nearly always – when you are feeling ANGER – the
cause of your ANGER – happened at sometime in your life when someone
– MOVED AGAINST YOU – and YOU felt hurt or you experienced emotional
pain.
If you choose to Resolve Your Anger in One to One Private Sessions
with me then during your FREE ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION I will discuss
with you the possibility of including in your treatment plan the
resolving and healing of any levels of past hurts that could be
causing, driving and maintaining your anger. The therapeutic
interventions to resolve and heal your past hurt and emotional pain
will be experienced by you safely and comfortably. Anger is very
often ‘born’ in the minutes or moments just before a TRAUMA. Let me
explain with an example: An adult is just about to start hitting a
child, or younger person. The anger is often ‘born’ in the child or
younger person as the adult is still, for example, shouting, or
chasing, or raising their hand. Once the actual hit or hitting is
happening the child or younger person will usually be more
completely involved in adopting inner defense or protective
strategies. For example the child or younger person, during the
actual hitting experience will go numb, or produce an amnesia (this
isn’t happening), or dissociate (the mind takes them ‘away’ from
what is happening).
I am explaining all of this to you,
because I wish you to know that I do not take a client back in time
through a trauma or traumatic memory. The place and time where we
need to go in memory is in the moments prior to the actual trauma –
in my above example where we need to go in time is when the adult
was chasing, shouting or raising their hand, that is before the hit
– or hitting occurred. These are the moments when the anger was
‘born’.
I will then guide you towards learning new and more productive
behaviours so that you will be able to assert yourself comfortably
and calmly in those situations which have been triggering your
anger. Assertive behaviour means you will be able to utilise methods
of communication which will maintain your self respect and dignity.
You will express your rights, your values and your needs and take
care of your personal space without causing suffering to, or
dominating others.
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What can you do next?
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Choose a FREE ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION
You will be able to ask me all the questions you need and also
inform me of anything that you think and feel is important and
relevant. I will establish with you what you need and want to
achieve from your Therapy and structure for you a treatment plan.
However if I think that working with me does not seem to be the most
effective method of resolving your difficulties, symptoms or problem
I will be able to talk to you about other ways you can receive help
that could be more beneficial.
If you need further advice or information about this problem we will
be delighted to hear from you. You will find us friendly,
professional and we will treat anything you may say or ask of us in
the strictest confidence. Contact
Your FREE ASSESSMENT CONSULTATION
will last for approximately one hour and can be done by phone, SKYPE,
or face to face at our consulting rooms in Keswick, Cumbria, in the
English Lake District. If travelling to Keswick for a weekly session
is unwieldy for you I can often conduct Therapy Sessions by phone.
However face to face Work, though not always essential, can often be
much better, in that for example, by phone you may tell me that you
are comfortable and relaxed, and face to face I can observe from your
breathing, heart rate and so on that in fact you are uncomfortable.
Also see 'Therapeutic Breaks' for information on our accommodation
–a sweet cosy cottage right on the banks of the beautiful River
Greta which sleeps three people.
Email:
sandie@excellentrapport.com
Or ring Sandie on 0191 5110368
(Non-UK +44 (0)191 5110368)
Registered Office address:
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Bridge House
30 Melsonby Close
Sunderland
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